Why do many homeschoolers stay in the same place?
Week after week, month after month, year after year – I see people sharing about the same frustrations over and over and over again.
Usually, these frustrations have to do with not having good systems in place. The foundations that would really make them feel joy in the journey are missing. They have replaced principles with objects.
Most of them are circling their wagons around curriculum. And blaming the frustrations on the resources – the "things" if you will – as being the source of all their problems. They are begging for someone to reveal to them that ONE textbook or that ONE boxed curriculum that is going to fix it all and send them off riding over rainbows on homeschool unicorns.
I've been doing this for a long time. The same dance in the same ballroom. Watching the same missteps which cause people to stay focused on the same fake solution to their very real problems. Walking into this with a boxed curriculum thinking everything is going to be perfect is like dancing with two left feet.
Now I'm not saying – don't buy curriculum. What I'm saying is, stop dancing with two left feet. The real solutions to homeschooling are not found in a box. You CAN make the box fit your child if you have the right tools (curriculum is not a tool, it's more like the nail or the rubber washer), but you can never make the child fit the box. At least not entirely. I've never seen it accomplished and I work with thousands of homeschoolers every year. Show me a child who has excelled academically and I will show you how the curriculum was not responsible for that success. Success goes deeper than curriculum. Much deeper.
So when people remain in this place, in the same dark and dusty ballroom with no windows and no natural light, they remain small in their efforts. Small. When you choose to stay small in something, you are treating it as a hobby. But, when you are ready to succeed, you will see homeschooling as a real opportunity. It's an opportunity for your kids to succeed. For you to succeed. It's an opportunity to create a love of learning and leadership in the people who are the very future of the world – our children. Don't miss the opportunity by staying small – homeschooling is NOT meant to be a hobby!
The best way to take hold of the opportunity for success is to get help from mentors. People who have stepped outside the box and have danced in the sunlight and have moved around and leaped from hill to hill and landed safely. People who can walk you step by step through processes, and help you to customize your own personal processes for your family. To teach you how to leverage all your resources and curriculum to each individual child's learning style and to YOUR learning style. Because you are learning too. Most homeschoolers were conditioned in the public school model. You've been taught that this is the way learning is done. You likely entered this process as a preschooler. So it's been a lot of years that you've been told that learning must be done a specific way. You are learning how to do things differently, so you need someone to teach you.
We all know very well that the public school model is a failed model. And from working with thousands of homeschoolers every year, I will be very candid with you – when you emulate a failed model, you are setting yourself up to fail. There is nothing wrong with using textbooks and workbooks if that is how you and your child prefer to consume knowledge. But don't let the textbooks consume YOU or your child.
Now, breaking out of routine – that familiar model – that "safe" place – is HARD to do. You will find yourself going back to that place of familiarity over and over again. The key is recognizing it as an obstacle, a distraction, a hobby mindset – and then choosing to do things the way you want to do them instead of "the way they have always been done". Consume knowledge, don't be consumed.
Look – anyone who told you homeschooling would be easy, was flat out misleading you. If it were easy, everyone would be doing it. Although there are millions of homeschoolers, we are far from "everyone" doing it. And many homeschoolers are still replicating public school at home and feeling like they are failing and they are not seeing the connection between the act and the feeling. They are battling with checkboxes every day and when they can't check off their box, their self doubt increases and they feel like they can't do it.
I once heard someone say – don't ask for your challenges to be small, ask for help to overcome them.
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