Asking questions can give you power in any conversation. When you ask a question, the other person is compelled to answer it. You maintain control of the conversation as long as you continue to ask questions.
This type of conversation control is a learned skill. It doesn't come naturally, especially if we have been on the other end of the conversation for most of our lives. Teaching our children this skill will help them in college and career interviews, in business, and should they become involved in politics (which we would hope everyone does!) this skill can be extremely powerful.
Knowledge is power, and you gain knowledge from inquiry. If one probes deep into a topic, they can discover all sorts of useful information to help achieve goals.
Questions also increase listening ability as you prompt the other person to talk. You learn about people by asking questions, listening, and getting closer to them. If you are in sales, it helps you to understand their needs. They also become more interested in you, because they see that you are interested in them. Open questions are particularly useful, as a short question leads to a longer question.
Questions can be used to persuade. For example, by using rhetorical questions that need no answers it can encourage the person to consider what you are saying. This is called Socratic questioning and is designed to make the other person think rather than elicit information for you.
There are many ways to ask questions, but asking the wrong questions or asking questions without listening can be damaging to relationships.
HECOA invited Israel Wayne to come and teach YOU how to teach your children the art of asking questions during the 2014 Not Back to School Summit – it was an amazing presentation!
Israel is an author and conference speaker who has a passion for defending the Christian faith and promoting a Biblical worldview. He is the author of the books Homeschooling from a Biblical Worldview, Full-Time Parenting: A Guide to Family-Based Discipleship, and The Questions God Asks. He is the Director of Family Renewal, LLC (www.FamilyRenewal.org) and the site editor for ChristianWorldview.net. Israel is also the son of Skeet Savage, a well known pioneer in the homeschool movement.
This webinar replay is available to upgraded Plus members here (you will need to log in): http://hecoa.com/transform-learning-through-the-art-of-questions
Workshop: Transform Learning Through the Art of Questions
Aired Sept 10th – 2014
Description: Whether you are a parent, seeking to motivate your reluctant learner, or you desire to break through your own limitations, you will make more progress if you learn to listen better and ask the right questions (the right way!). Learn how you can help yourself (and others) recognize hidden assumptions, and overcome obstacles, through learning the art of asking question. This presentation includes an analysis of the art of questions from a bibilical perspective and can be applied to any faith.